Anal Play is Pleasurable for Women!
“I was thinking… would you be open to trying something new? Something like anal play” He asks broaching the subject, and my heart stops beating, as I struggle to catch up with the sudden turn in our conversation.
Anal play. The words echo in my mind, as I swallow my saliva.
“I’m not sure,” I finally manage to say, as my words come out in a whisper.
But it’s the truth. Just like many other girls, I am not ready yet. I lack the clarity of the topic and I don’t know whether I am ready to explore it or not.
“That’s okay. It’s important that we only do what feels right for you.” He gently accepts my decision.
But as Iie on my bed at night, the soft sheets cradle beneath me and my mind whirls with thoughts.
If I look back, it seems to be a simple request. He was just asking to explore this new daring thing, but my immediate reaction was to shut him down. And he respected that. He didn’t push, didn’t plead. He simply nodded, kissed me gently, and left.
I toss and turn on my bed, unable to shake the curiosity that is gnawing at me with the word ‘anal play’.
Why did he want it? What is the interesting thing? And most importantly, why can’t I bring myself to say yes, just like I say it for every other sexual thing?
I get up and reach for my laptop, thinking that maybe a little research will help me understand. Maybe it will help me understand why it’s so off-limits.
I open a browser and type in the words, and the search results pop up.
My heart is pounding in my chest, and I am nervous, unsure of what I may find. But I push past the fear and click on the first link that catches my eye. The page loads slowly, with images and text filling the screen. I read article after article, and scroll through forums and discussion boards, reading stories from people who have dared to explore this taboo, and to be honest, I am convinced.
I glance at the clock and realize that hours have passed since I first started my search, and my opinion changed a lot. I feel a strange sense of calmness washing over me, as I was now ready to dive into the world of anal play. Slowly and steadily, courage starts to build in me as I convince myself to explore it with him.
I hover the cursor over other articles, and with every word I read, the weight on my shoulders lessens, replaced by a sense of empowerment I never expected to find, and that too in anal play.
And amidst everything, I realize that anal sex is a topic filled with a minefield of societal taboos, is often misunderstood, and is surrounded by misconceptions.
For some women, the idea of anal sex is pretty much similar to the concept of the forbidden fruit of Adam and Eve.
Many girls just like me regulate it as a “no-no-never” zone.
But just like my views flipped, I just hope it gets flipped for girls like me as well, because if you are not ready to explore this forbidden kink, you are missing out on a lot of pleasure.
But honestly, I can’t blame any of those girls or women, because I get it. I come from the same place. Past bad experiences, cultural taboos, or just plain fear can make the idea of exploring anal touch seem daunting, if not downright terrifying.
And as the sex expert, Sinclair, rightly puts it, the sensations that tickle your fancy have nothing to do with who you are attracted to.
And as I dig deeper into the subject, I realize that there’s more to anal pleasure than what meets the eye. It’s all about what feels good for you, much like choosing your favourite meal without considering your dinner date. And let’s just face it, despite its universal appeal, anal play still carries a stigma in our society. We are just not talking enough about all the ladies who enjoy a little butt plug action or about the many women who find pleasure in rimjobs.
Sure, it can be painful if done incorrectly, but when approached with the right preparation and the right person, it has the potential to unlock a whole new world of pleasure for you.
So, now let’s look at the most commonly asked question.
Is anal sex pleasurable for women?
The answer can never be a plain yes or no.
Instead, the pleasure is in the fact of how it works, and what feels good.
And believe me, there is a lot to consider when it comes to anal play and health.
Communication, relaxation and plenty of lubrication are the first steps in anal play and if you have gone past that you may want to know how it exerts pleasure.
Our anus is rich in nerve endings, capable of delivering intense sensations when stimulated in the right way. But you have to understand that pleasure is subjective.
What works for one person may not necessarily work for another.
I am at the point where I am convinced to entertain the idea of exploring anal sex, but I am aware that I have to proceed with care and caution. After all, pleasure should never come at the expense of safety and consent. And while I may be intrigued by the prospect of new sensations, I know that it’s important to listen to my body and communicate my boundaries every step of the way.
And so does it for every other girl.
So, now buckle up, because we are drowning deep into the world of why anal sex can be an ‘oh-so-good’ factor for girls.
And trust me it is not just about the nerve endings we discussed above. Even though there are plenty of those around.
Basically, during anal intercourse, pressure is applied on the anterior wall of the vagina, where there are shared nerves between the rectum and vagina. This means that for some women, anal play can actually provide sexual stimulation from the anus. So you are basically hitting a pleasure jackpot with anal play.
But you know the clitoris? Well, the clitoris is not just a tiny button above your vagina, hiding down there, instead, it has its legs branching off, just like trees, into the walls of the complete vagina and some on the back door as well.
So, when you add some gentle anal stimulation, you are not just treating your anus, but you are also sending some seriously delicious sensations to those clitoral branches. And those clitoral nerves extend towards the anus too, potentially allowing for some clitoral stimulation from anal play.
So when I say it’s like a party for women’s pleasure zones, I am not wrong.
But wait, there is more!
With the help of the fabulous anatomy of our body, let’s learn how anal play can stimulate the G-spot as well.
Actually, the membrane between the anus and the vagina is pretty thin.
And if you hit the right angle during anal penetration… guess what? You are also giving that elusive G-spot a little love tap.
Also, we can not forget about the passionate intensity of it all.
I mean, have you ever experienced an orgasm so deep it feels like it’s coming from your soul?
Yeah… soul!
And let me tell you, the multitasking sensations of anal play have that capability. Anal penetration has this magic that it can bring to the table, unlocking a whole new level of pleasure you never knew existed.
Apart from all the physical sensations, it has a psychological aspect as well.
Even though, anal sex is still a bit of a taboo topic in society, it adds an extra layer of excitement for some adventurous people out there.
You see, just like it did for me and I immediately dived into research to try it.
Breaking stereotypes and societal norms brings a kind of rebellious fun that gets the hearts racing.
But apart from it all, there is one more fun angle.
It’s the whole dominance and submission dynamic, and it’s an already established fact that girls like to submit in bed and have rough sex.
A little of it never hurts anyone.
And with anal play, the idea of surrendering all parts of your body to a partner is a major turn-on for many of us. You know it’s like giving yourself over to pleasure in the most deliciously naughty way possible.
And… the fantasy of being penetrated both anally and vaginally at the same time.
Ah! You can make it come true only when you decide to give yourself some room for anal play.
Trust me, it’s like living out your wildest dreams of being pleasured by more than one person with just one person!
And reality can be just as mind-blowing as fantasy.
Let me just say it, anal sex isn’t just about pushing boundaries, although it certainly does that too. It’s about exploring all the delicious sensations.
So why not grab some of your favourite toys and a willing partner, to go headfirst into the adventure of anal pleasure.
Trust me, your body will thank you for it!
But first, let me debunk some myths.
One of the common myths right off the bat is that it’s only for gay couples, and the one with prostates only. But it’s absurd, to say the least. If you do it right, it can be a whole lot of fun for people of any gender.
From rimming to rubbing to light penetration with fingers and small toys, or deeper penetration with penises, and larger toys, there is something for every type of girl.
In fact, a study from 2022 found that a whopping 40% of women reported that anal touch actually makes other sexual acts more pleasurable for them.
And the anus itself is one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on a woman’s body. Give it a little bit of attention in the right places, and yes, your anus has the capability to send shivers of delight up and down your spine.
So… let’s go and give anal play a try and see what all the fuss is about?
But you have to be well prepared, and here is the breakdown on how to get the party started.
First up, is communication.
Boys, if your girl likes to chat about all things sexy, you are one lucky guy, and it’s your golden ticket. You can bring up the topic of anal play and let her share her thoughts and feelings about it.
The key here?
Respect and acceptance, just like my boyfriend did.
And look with just a cue of patience and right communication, here I am urging everyone to try anal sex. So it’s basically a win-win for you.
Now, what to do if your girl is shy?
Don’t worry, I have kept you sorted here as well.
You can test it.
Yes!
During some steamy oral play, start by gently stroking her anus externally. Don’t forget to keep an eye on her body language. If she is relaxed and responsive, you are good to keep going. And only when it’s abundantly clear that she’s into it, you start experimenting with a little of that anal penetration.
For girls, it’s as easy as it may sound, just go and talk to your partner about it, and open up to him about your desires.
To cut it short, ongoing communication is key.
Seriously, you can’t just dive into anal play and hope for the best. Sadly, it doesn’t work that way.
Because here is the ultimate deal… if you want to scream “YES!” to the question “Is anal sex pleasurable?”, you gotta prioritize communication above all else.
The more you talk, the less chance there is of pain and the greater the likelihood of pleasure. So, when it comes to introducing anal play into the mix, it’s all about talking… and testing the waters.
Quite literally.
Another myth is that anal play isn’t healthy.
It is!
Only if you keep it healthy. Because trust me, nobody wants any unwanted surprises popping up during playtime.
So first start up with lube, as we all know the anus isn’t like the vagina, it doesn’t self-lubricate. So, the spit and natural juices just won’t cut it for you and do the job. You have to move your ass (pun intended) and apply a lot of good quality lube.
A lot means a lot!
Slather your asshole generously.
Not only does it make everything feel way more pleasurable, but it also helps prevent any tears or injuries, reducing the risk of STIs and other nasty diseases.
Nobody wants them anyway!
And speaking of STIs, let’s talk about condoms. If you’re going for the whole penetration in an asshole, make sure your partner is suiting up properly.
Safety first, people!
Now that it’s done, you have to do a warm-up session like a workout. A little lube and gentle massage can go a long way in relaxing those muscles and preventing any unwanted tears or discomfort.
Believe me, it makes all the difference.
And let’s not forget cleanliness.
Whether it’s toys, hands, or your own genitals, make sure everything’s squeaky clean before you start your anal play. Follow the cleaning instructions for any toys, wash your hands and genitals thoroughly, and never, I repeat, never ever let your partner do the double dip.
If it’s been in the backdoor, keep it far away from the front one. You don’t want that in the same setting.
And, if you’re into a little tongue action down there, cleanliness is absolutely non-negotiable. Oral anal play requires a lot of cleanliness. Make sure that your booty has been thoroughly washed with soap and water, inside and out.
Now it’s time for the discussion on the elephant in the room.
Pain!
What about the pain that many people associate with anal play?
It’s mainly because of unpleasant past experiences, or simply because you didn’t know how to make it enjoyable.
‘Pleasurable anal sex’ is 90% preparation, including mental readiness. If you have had a rocky ride before, your body might tense up, expecting more of the same.
That’s where mental and physical preparation come into play. Irene Fehr, another sex and intimacy coach, stresses the importance of feeling safe and comfortable with your partner. He urges to take things at a pace that feels right for you. Rushing into it can lead to a forced experience, whereas easing into it naturally can open doors to pleasure.
Just like I did.
*A pat on my back!*
It’s pretty much natural to feel anxious and remember that you are not alone. Many girls feel anxious before giving it a go, and trust me just because others have tried it doesn’t mean your concerns aren’t valid. But it’s worth remembering that there’s a reason why it’s popular. It’s because it can be extremely pleasurable with the right positions and right acts.
We live in a porn world, and if I say there is one thing we have learned from porn, it’s that doggy-style reigns supreme as the ultimate position for anal sex.
But is it? Because what works for one person might not work for another. Our bodies are all unique, and what feels good for one pelvis or anal canal might not feel so great for another.
Plus, let’s not forget that not all penises or toys are shaped the same way, so finding the right position is key to avoiding discomfort or even pain to some extent.
And that is where, girls, you have to solo explore a bit. Take the time to get to know your own anatomy. It can be incredibly helpful in guiding your partner or toy in a way that’s pleasurable, not painful.
But just for the tip of the iceberg, I can tell you some of my favourites.
Number one! Cowgirl.
If you are new to anal sex like me, starting out on top might be the way to go.
This position puts you in control of the depth and speed of penetration, allowing you to ease into things at your own pace. Plus, eye contact always does wonders. And if your partner’s penis has an upward curve, this position provides direct access to your A-zone.
Number two, missionary!
Although it has a bad reputation for being a little ‘too’ vanilla, you know what? It actually provides direct stimulation to the A-zone for many girls.
With variations like having your legs on your partner’s shoulders or bent towards your chest, this position can be quite intimate and prevent deep penetration, hence making it perfect for beginners. Also, gauge your partner’s expressions or just seduce him even more, it works for that as well.
And now, the classic doggy style, as our porn knowledge has made us believe.
It wouldn’t be a list of top anal sex positions if the list doesn’t have ‘doggy style’ in it.
This position allows for deep penetration and easier access to the A-zone, but… it’s best to wait until you’ve mastered anal sex.
You can’t just start on all fours.
Since in this position, you’ll be facing away from each other, it can be harder to read each other’s cues, so make sure you’re both comfortable and ready to give it a go.
So, if you’re mentally and physically prepared, anal play has the potential to feel pretty darn amazing, regardless of your gender.
But whatever you choose, take it slow, and above all, listen to your body’s cues. With the right position and a little bit of practice, anal sex can be a pleasurable experience for all involved.
So why not explore, experiment, and discover the pleasure that awaits you?
Because I am going to do just that.
“Hey there… I have a little proposition for you… Remember when you asked me to spice things up with some anal play? Well, guess who is feeling adventurous now? That’s right, this girl! I am ready to dive in for some naughty fun and be amazed at your skills. ‘Wink wink’”
I texted him, waiting for a night to remember!
