Dirty Talking!
“ You feel so good inside me”, she moaned as he moved his hips in circular motion while making love to her. Hearing this he knew he was doing the right thing. Just what she needed. He kept on thrusting inside her. Her eyes rolled back in pleasure while his shaft pounded her wet hole . “ You’re so wild”, he whispered in her ears as she thrust her hips against his groin and clawed on his back pulling him closer . Taking him all inside. Her walls clenched around his thickness . “ You make me so fucking horny!”, she felt the tingles in her body . His words seemed to bring out her deepest desires . The things she wanted to say out loud . The things that she wanted to experience . What makes the difference is being comfortable with your partner and letting your body relax and feel each and every sensation to the fullest. Another thing is Dirty talking during sex. So what is dirty talking? It is simply the sexually explicit things we say to seduce our partner. Apart from the usual yes fuck me there and oh yess.. there are so many things to say and turn the heat up!
Those who have experienced it know the thrill . Women love it! They might not ask for it initially but they find it arousing. But there is a tabboo around the word itself . Thanks to our society it is portrayed as something that is bad or shameful . We all feel turned on when we hear it while watching porn but often shy away from applying it to our own lives . Incorporating dirty talking in our favourite cardio routine would take sex to newer highs and make it more intense and pleasurable . It increases the connection too . Emotionally and mentally . You know your needs are met . You are having fun and everything is blissful. So breaking the shackles of the society that sex is supposed to be a hush -hush act is actually important . If we like being called names and want our partner to be rough while having sexual intercourse that’s our call . Nobody is entitled to judge it . Now we understand it is not easy to open up and ask for it immediately . Some are already a pro at it . For those who are a bit confused on how to go about it ,we are here to guide you . There are many questions and a few things to keep in mind while dirty talking . How would you know your partner likes it ? What if they get offended ? What is the right way to go about it ? How to build up confidence ? We got you! Lets get to it guys!
- Communicate beforehand : As the saying goes all the things can be solved and understood by communicating and comprehending properly . No mind games here . You can casually ask your partner what do they think of dirty talking while having sex . Create a no judgement vibe so they can open up and tell you everything . Who knows maybe they wanted it too but were shy to ask for it ! You may send a dirty text while they are at work and follow up their reactions . It is easier to say it on text . They will know you are interested too . And if they are not it is always better to respect their choices . Flirt with them, give some sexy compliments and make them blush . It is a good way to boost up the intimacy . When we feel good around a man and he hypes us up it is easier for us to get closer with him . It is like every woman wants a man who treats her like the goddess she is . We feel good when we know the man we are interested in gets hard thinking of us.
2. Sexting : What better way to explore the dirty talking than texting them and making them wet ( or hard whatsoever) . It is mental foreplay . Let them know what you are planning to do to them . For example- “ I am going to tie you up to the bed and spread you open .” or “ I cannot wait to rip those pants apart and savour the goodness between your thighs .” Take it slow and easy . Keep it light . Don’t get all intense . The anticipation you build up would work wonders for you both . Going a bit personal , One guy I was texting while I was at work texted me some stuff that got my hands between my thighs under the table . His “ I want to make you my bitch tonight and pound you so hard…” literally got me nibbling my lips imagining us getting all wild . Sexting it fun. Doing it in person is way more fun . It turns on the heat like nothing else . Simply knowing that he is thinking about me in that way is exciting .
3. Set the mood : Once you are both alone . Ready to dive into the moment you have been visualizing start off by hugging them and whispering things like “ You look so sexy” ,” I’ve been waiting to have you all to myself “ while you caress their butt and drop few wet kisses on their neck . The hot breaths followed by sloppy kisses will make them go damp with excitement . Keep the foreplay fun and sensual . Pleasure their erotic zones like the earlobes , neck , underside of breast etcetera while your words make her whimper in need . Take your time and get comfortable . Make eye contact as your lips do the talking . Foreplay is very very important . It makes the sex even more interesting . The orgasms are toe curling too . Trust me!
4. Find out what turns them on: See there is no specific words or slangs that turn people on . You need to explore what makes your partner and you writhe in pleasure . Some women like being called a slut or whore during sex . It works as magic when you are dominating her . Compliment her body . You can tell her how good she tastes down there or how ready her pussy is to take your throbbing dick.
A simple “you are a dirty little slut” turns us on . It brings out the wilder side that wants to ride that cock and take the control . Similarly the – “your lips look so good wrapped around my dick” is absolutely encouraging . Get ready to have the best blowjob while you tell her how good she sucks you and makes you hard like a pole . Just make sure your tone is not derogatory or offensive . That would be a turn off . Refrain from using abusing language . Know the boundaries . Keep it simple and embrace the seduction .
5. Try role-plays too: Bring your fantasies to life with your partner . Ask them whom do they fantasize while masturbating or is there any specific type of genres in porn that turns them on and make them crave for the same . It is different for every woman. Also if it is you playing the part it would be rightful too. Switch up the usual couple roles and make things hot and spicy . That way the things you speak to your significant other changes and before you know you would be moving smooth . Whisper in their ears . Unveil your desires .Tell them how their tongue feels heavenly swirling around you . You’ll see their lust increasing when you talk through sex . Not too much but keep things interesting. Slow moans and spanks go a long way too .
6. Don’t judge: The things said in the heat of the moment were out of pleasure . Don’t ever form an image of your partner based on that . Those things are simply what they fantasize about and they are letting you in their safe space. Respect that and have fun . Don’t take it too seriously . Keep an open mind . Always . For example we might say “I love being your slut” but it is not supposed to be took literally .
7. After care: It is okay for things to get hot and wild but once you are done it is crucial to give that love and care . Those words of sweet affirmations and romantic cuddles create a better bond . You know you can be nasty as well as at calm with this person . So strive to create that . Cuddle her and hug her . Follow up with some kisses and watch your love life bloom .
8. Give instructions: We women love being told what to do ( only in bed). There is something about that “ Come and ride it “ makes it even more exciting when it is said in a dominating tone. A low deep sound. We like being guided . When we feel close to the man we are making out with and trust him with our body it is natural to give in . Yes sometimes we like to dominate and have our way but most of the times we like being pinned to the wall and fucked hard or just have our hands held above our head and drilled deep . Our juices flow readily when the man knows what he wants and how to go about it . Someone who teaches us sensations about our body that we never experienced and takes us on a frenzy of sensual emotions . We tend to moan and speak the stuff we would not have courage to speak otherwise .
9. Don’t overthink it: Sex is supposed to feel free and relaxing not something that you have to think a lot about . Yes be considerate but don’t analyse every move and word. Nobody is perfect as it is shown on the internet . Have fun and be yourself . Getting into the bed is exciting . Stay confident while you experience newer things or speak the words you did not earlier . If it is not coming from within it will obviously feel cringe . So feel free and enjoy the process.
10. Give feedback: “I felt so good inside you “ and “ You are so good at it baby “ are some instances . You can ask them what felt the best so you can do it again and tell them the same for you to experience again . Learn what works for both of you. With each session you will learn more about each other and connect better .
It all comes down to understanding your partner better. Make her feel desired. Make her feel sexy. Let her know she turns you on. Compliment her and make her feel at ease . Take things slow and build up the pleasure. Make her ache in need and dive into the wet heaven. Dirty talk is fun and amps up the sexual activities you engage in. Just stay confident and. delight in the experience . Get her juices flowing with your skills!
