Eleven Points To Remember While Going Down On Her!
One Friday evening, she sat across him. in their house sipping freshly brewed coffee. After taking a sip, he wiped the froth off his lips using his tongue. She felt a tingle in her body down there imagining the way he would feel like savouring her wetness. Would he do it in a way that excites her or would it be pretence just to keep things normal? His parted lips made her imagination run wild. She composed herself and blushed when he looked at her and found her nibbling her lips lost in a thought. Cunnilingus or oral sex is still not talked about a lot. It is basically a sexual activity involving oral stimulation of a woman’s genitals.
There are some things that need to be kept in mind and practiced over and over to get perfect in the act. It is an art. Some men are good at it and some are not. That’s one reason why they do not like giving it to their partner. Some of them want to make their woman feel good but do not know how to go about it. They often jump to fingering the vagina or rubbing roughly on the clitoris just as shown in various pornography. Well, porn is a good way to learn some new techniques and positions but it does not work well for everyone. Sometimes it is unrealistic other times it might give way to a new experience. Women like variety too. Their needs vary as well. She might like some soft touches and licks on a few days and might prefer it rough on other .
We know, every woman is different. It is important to find out what works for her. What makes her feel horny and turned on. That’s why one size fits all approach does not work in cunnilingus. Nevertheless there are some universal things that women like during oral sex. (Exceptions are not being ruled out). It is important to make your lady feel safe, comfortable and desired both inside and outside your bedroom. Open communication and consent is necessary. It should not feel like an interrogation. Keep it playful but clear. Once you both are ready for the act, dive into it. We are here to give you all an insight from a woman’s perspective. Sit back and enjoy the tips!
- Start gradually: Think of it as a make out session involving kissing, cuddling and getting frisky. It helps to ease both the partners. Let your touches show her how desirable you find her. Go for passionate sensual kisses. The ones that leave you breathless while you allow your hands to caress her body. Kiss her neck leaving sloppy kisses along the way. Touch her pelvic bone and her thighs. Take time to build up that tension. Don’t rush. Touch her vulva through her panties or whatever she is wearing. Graze your finger on her slit to see her desires firing up!
- Set the mood: Drop some hints beforehand. Some flirty texts or in person teasing will do the thing. Let her know what awaits her . Keep it fun and sensual. Whether it is slow music , scented candles or anything that appeals to both of you, the vibe around you plays an important role. It would be difficult to focus on relaxing if there is music blasting. Not for the quickies though. Or if it is a risky one. Having people just outside your room. Then it is fine to go on with it. Get comfortable. Be enthusiastic about it. If you’ll just do it without actually enjoying it, it will show. It is not a give and take. Keep that selfishness away. Do it because you want it to. Put an effort and connect with her in ways more than just physical.
- Know the erogenous zones: Not to forget the erogenous zones that make us go Mmmm in need. Well they are the sites of high sensitivity and provide pleasure when stimulated correctly. It is not just the vagina and the boobs that need attention, you are missing out on some great fun if you leave out her neck, inner thighs, perineum, underside of boobs, earlobes and feet. Scalp has a lot of nerve endings as well making it a potential erogenous zone. Gently tug on her hair while you kiss her or lick her neck. Start with gentle touches on these areas adding some pressure and using your tongue. Some soft flicks and she will be hot and needy. It takes longer for women to get aroused so let her unwind and take in all the pleasure while you fondle her. It will be worth the wait.
- Use your tongue and fingers right: Gently kiss her inner thighs and caress them. Move on to her vulva and take a good look at it before looking at her again. Let your eyes do the talking while she feels your hot breath on her pussy. Don’t break the eye contact and graze your tongue on her slit , kiss her folds and make it wet with your saliva. Go for circular motions or the back and forth flicks. Don’t stare at her continuously lol. Enjoy your happy meal and let her feel the sensations nicely. You can push your tongue inside her to create that extra bliss. Don’t bite her lips. Not even gently. Sucking is the way to go about it. Resist the need to put in your fingers inside. Her moans and writhing will let you know she is enjoying it and wants more of it. Slowly dip your fingers inside. Slide them in and out rhythmically. Stimulate her g spot or the Gràfenberg spot ( it is located at top of the labia minora/ inner folds of vagina) . To feel it you would need to take your time and locate it. Curl your fingers inside and make a come here motion. Doing it right can lead to a good squirm. A few groans and moans from you would give her the signal that you are having fun and it will drive her crazy.
- Talk dirty to her: Keep the good boy talks outside and bring out the dirty talker inside of you to life. Ask her if she likes it or should you do something more. Keep the conversation short. It is not a chore to do. Check on her once in a while. You can also move up and lick her earlobes while you whisper filthy things to her. Tell her how wet she is or how your fingers are dripping with her juice. Finger her as you kiss her wildly. Dirty talk takes the whole thing to another level.
- Make it wet: Dry rubbing is a turn off. Lick her like you have been thirsty. to do it. Spread her labia and add some spit ( if she likes that) and rub it over with your palms. Tap on her folds and rub her slit. Adding some lube is also a good option. Rest, her juices will make things wet and nice once you’ve got her all turned on.
- Find a good position: As it is stated that women take longer to get in the mood you would like a comfortable position to lie down. The classic on the belly position works fine when you lie on your stomach between her legs. It is a good visual too. Plus you can check her expressions and give her what she needs. Try switching up things by having her straddle your face. 69 is actually over hyped. Not everyone feels good in it. Doggy style feels good too. It also give access for some butt play. You can lick her ass cheeks. Grab them and finger her butt hole too. Make it wild!
- Compliments: Some women feel insecure about the way their vagina smells or looks like. Make her feel loved. Tell her how sexy she looks having her legs spread in front of your mouth. Vagina is supposed to smell like a vagina. It can be sweet, sour, mushy etc. Unless there is a fishy smell you are good to go. Pubic hair are also normal. Keeping them or not is her preference. Women are beautiful just as they are. Just as women don’t like getting pubes in their way of giving head to their partner similarly no man would like it interrupting the fun. A lot of pubic hair down there is not enjoyable to both the partners. A small patch on the top is okay.
- Orgasms : Not everyone gets one from oral sex. Some require penetrative sex for that. And vice versa. Don’t take it personally that you did not do a good job. Her thrusts, tugging on your hair and clenching her thighs will let you know how good you make her feel. Pay attention to those. Her sounds also aid to that. Once she lets you know she is close to coming don’t change what you were doing. Continue it exactly in the same manner. Men often get too excited on hearing that and start getting rough and increase their pace. That’s not what she wants! Remember, consistency is the key.
- Don’t limit yourself to just her vagina: With your free hand, touch her breast, gently knead her nipples and caress her stomach and butt. Tease her, make her squirm and showcase your skills. That extra attention goes a long way. Let your touch linger on her body. She would be begging for more!
- You can also use sex toys like vibrators: Getting a bit messy and enjoying it is okay but hygiene is important. Always keep your nails trimmed and clean. A shower together is also a good idea to relax before taking it further. Not to forget that it is romantic as well! So take your game on the next level with these tips. Find out what gives her feel good sensations .Give her a leg shaking orgasm. Make her feel things about her body that she never did before. Get those juices flowing!
