Fellatio: Maximising Pleasure!
As we all know fellatio or blowjobs are one of the most important part of foreplay but what we need to know is that it is also a skill. It is really intimate and personal which makes it even more sexy . It can be improved and used to amp up the pleasure in bed. Once you know what works for you more, you would leave your partner craving for more each time. There are some women ( or men ) who just keep their partners thinking of them when they are away because of the “ giving head skills “ they have. You may have overheard some guys telling about how good she sucked their penis or how her tongue works magically on their shaft making them roll your eyes back in pleasure. So what it is that they know and how do they implement it ? It actually takes patience and practice. I am here to guide you all on just that. So , how do to maximise pleasure while giving blowjobs ? Let us dive into the world of secrets that will make him weak in his knees. * Wink wink *
Build it up !
First things first making sure that your partner is absolutely comfortable with you. The emotional factor works wonders for a good round of foreplay / sex. When you know you are comfortable with your man, he knows your turn ons, he knows how to admire your body and give you all that you need. it is easier for you to calm your senses down and be present in the moment. It gets fun cherishing each touch of his hand. Isn’t it ? That’s the same for men. People have this preformed notion about how men are always horny and they are always ready to fuck so we tend to believe in that and do not try to learn about our partner. Is he actually turned on ? What else does he needs ? How can you make him feel even more satisfied ? How can you make him go gaga over you ? It all starts from the mind. Once that safe space and vibes are met , the body follows. That has to be genuine ( obviously duh ! ) . Take your time building up good conversations and playful banter. Whether it is short, dirty texts while he is at work or some wet , lingering kisses where he keeps waiting for more. Slowly make your way into his mind. Let him know you are in the mood. Tease him and flirt with him. Once things start getting heated up while touching each other here and there or kissing move your palm over his thighs to his groin. Some men do not start feeling horny all of a sudden. They need some time easing their bodies and getting closer. Trace his hardness. Give some squeezes and play around. Keep your tongues engaged while you tease him. Don’t rush. Take your time. The longer you make him crave for you, the better it would be when you finally rip his pants off and take him in your mouth. Wait till he is flushed and panting for you !
Flick it !
Once you have his dick in your hands , trace your tongue on its head in slow circular motions. Remember to flick the frenulum rhythmically . Now what is the frenulum ? It is where the foreskin meets the under side of the penis. It looks like a small V just below the head. While you are licking the head flick it and keep sucking slowly. Since this region is an erogenous zone, it will definitely send tingles in his body. Don’t take him entirely at once. Let him feel you moving your way on his girth. Keep moving your head slightly lower and lower till you can take it.
Slurp him well !
Do not worry about the sounds you make while you are licking his penis. Men find it hot when their partner is having fun sucking their manhood and making those slurping and low moaning sounds. Do yourself a favour and do not make yourself small. Let it out. Verbalise without any second thoughts. Be expressive. It turns them on even more. Have fun feeling him throb in your mouth. You can also touch yourself while you are giving him head. Those erotic visuals are bound to excite him thoroughly. Sit next to him so he can see your ass too. Plus it gets easier to deep throat in that position. Win – win !
Use your hands well !
If you are down on your knees, place one hand on his thighs for support and use the other one to hold his shaft. Place it on its base. Move it slowly. Vary speed and pressure from time to time but not too much. Keep sucking the upper part of his shaft while spreading your saliva using the palm. Move down to his scrotum too. Stacking both the hands one over other and giving a sloppy handjob is a good option when your mouth needs some rest. You can also play with those balls one by one. Tickle them gently. Give a light squeeze or cup them. You can suck them and keep stroking him simultaneously. Twist your hands clockwise and then in the opposite direction. Make sure it is lubricated well. A lot of hand action along with spit works amazingly. When it comes to blowjobs remember: The messier , the better.
Eye contact
Look into his eyes while you pleasure him. Be confident and keep looking back into his eyes periodically. Don’t stare continuously. Keep your glances short and sensual. Look up to him and tell him things like –
- I love tasting your cock!
2. You are so big baby !
3. You like it when I do that ?
Keep the dirty talk on according to your perspective of it. If you are comfortable continue it otherwise keep it short. Wink at him and roll your eyes while you swirl your tongue on his hardness.
Mirror , mirror on the wall !
Keep a mirror close by. Getting down and letting him watch you from both the sides , the front and the back taking him like a pro is super arousing. Give him a good show ! It is exciting to see a woman getting all naughty and teasing. Visuals take the excitement to an another level. See for yourself. Keep a check on his reactions too so you would know if you are doing it right or it needs to be switched up with something else.
Deep throating
He would like it when his penis would hit the back of your throat. but do it only if you are comfortable. If you want try it out, do it. For that, be prepared mentally too. Have an idea of how much you can take without gagging first. Practice using a dildo before hand and put it in your mouth. You don’t have to take him all in to make him feel satisfied. You will get there slowly. Try taking slightly more than you can and stay there. for a few seconds. Condition your body to it. Once you are used to it, the gag reflex would not bother that much. Actually when the dick touches that area, more saliva is produced so it helps with the lubrication. Also, who cares if you gag once or twice ? It is natural. Do not get scared of it.
Dress up sexy ladies !
Wear something hot and revealing like a lacy underwear or a sexy bra. Your person would not get less aroused if you are giving him head wearing just your tee shirt but it does increase the pleasure if you put effort to it and charm him. Show up in his favourite nightie of yours or try out role play dressing. There is something about keeping a bra or panty on while giving head rather than being completely naked. The thrill of having a piece of clothing on gives that excitement. For some, it might bring back the flashbacks of quickies when they did not have the time / patience to remove all clothes before sex. Bring that fantasy to life where you imagine yourself as the sexy woman taking charge and going to her man. Where she sucks him passionately and makes him moan in ecstasy. So, here is your sign to try it out.
Don’t forget the bum !
We tend to neglect the ass but men don’t. If you know what I mean. So, we should learn this from them. Yeah ? So you can give some scratches on his ass using your nails or just squeeze it gently. Play around the hole. It is a sensitive organ thus it is erogenous too ! If he is into it, you can go ahead and stick a finger inside his asshole and finger him. Just don’t get too aggressive. Lol !
Giving a blowjob is not just limited to the penis. Engage his body completely. Kiss him gently, give him your attention and energy. Give it your all. Have fun and be enthusiastic to try out new things. Take his suggestions and remember what made him feel good. Allow yourself to feel good. It is supposed to be a good feeling for both of you and connect better. Don’t be scared to push your limits. If you want to. There is no obligation whatsoever. Do what feels enthralling to you. If you will have fun, he would too. Don’t think too much. Ease yourself up. Find comfortable positions. Switch up the angles once in a while. Predictable is not fun right ? So , be authentic and show him what all that mouth can do !
