Five Unconventional Ways To Spice Up Your Sex Life
Sex can be passionate, fun, and exciting and you can never get enough of it too but then what happens when you get bored of sex? You still do it any way but you don’t enjoy it. And that prompted and inspired people to start adding spice to their bedroom adventures. Sex with strangers can be good for some because there is always a mystery there which a lot of people find interesting, inviting more than one person in your bed turns people on, and doing the deed in public places also gives people the excitement they were missing because of the adrenaline rush and definitely breaking the rules adds more guilty pleasure to it, roleplays, handcuffs, blindfolds, etc. The list is endless but is it really worth the try? Will everything work for you? Do you know your boundaries in bed? Can you color outside the lines and like it? I have laid down all of the things that you can add to your sex life to make it spicier and hotter.
- Role-Play
The most effective and old way to spice up your midnight shenanigans is role play, not just inside the bedroom but outside too. Now, you ask me how do we role-play outside the bedroom? Well, just have a ‘one-night stand, night,’ plan a blind date, take different identities and different personalities, act like strangers the entire time, go home have sex like those strangers and you will see the difference. The buildup that comes from being strangers is always what old couples miss and this can definitely satisfy your yearning for something new and different. Not only that, but role-play inside the bedroom also helps when people have their own fantasies and kinks, being someone else for your partner to fulfill their fantasy can also give a boost to your sex life, and no, it does not mean your partner is in any way cheating on you emotionally or low-key want you to be them, it is just about what they want in bed and not in your relationship. So go ahead and be someone you’re not in bed, maybe you end you discovering yourself too.
2. Threesomes
Whether you’re a committed couple finding someone as your third, looking to join an existing couple in a threesome as their unicorn or just trying it out amongst friends, it’s easier to have a threesome than you’d think. Threesomes are not just male fantasies anymore, some women also want to explore themselves in sex and might want to do it with either two men at a time or another woman besides themselves with a man. But, if you are ready for a threesome, there is talking and planning involved unlike in movies where 3 strangers decide to have sex together and next day pretend as if nothing happened. I guess we can all use some tips as well before going in for a threesome;
A. Don’t stress about it because everyone else are as stressed as you are. Keep your calm and you will enjoy it.
B. Drink and talk before you go for it to lighten the stress and awkwardness.
C. Music also helps in setting the tone right.
D. Make sure the bed is big enough for three people.
3. Watch porn together
Porn is not something that should be private or you should just keep to yourself, if there’s any porn you like just re-watch it with your partner. If the taste matches, you can always get ideas from it for positions that you want to try and even role play ideas. Sometimes, when it is difficult to communicate with your partner about your fantasy just show it to them, this might give them a subtle hint about your interests and fantasies. And if they are willing, you might get what you want without you even asking for it. Also, you can watch porn together and see who can keep their hands off the other person longer, the rules and prohibition turn on people and it might make your sex more passionate and wild.
4. Make your own erotica
You can also make your porn videos, make sure you record them with your partner’s permission though. Watching yourself with your partner hot and heavy in bed can make you feel sexier and also add hotness to your bedroom. Some people even sext, which is sex on texts which they re-read from time to time when they want to feel hot, and on days when things don’t feel spicy enough.
5. Bring in the sex toys
Just going to a sex toy store and picking toys with your partner can turn on things for some, it can also be a very fun activity. Sex toys do add some playful naughtiness to your bedroom and make things interesting. Not just sex toys like handcuffs, vibrators, rings, etc but also sexy lingerie that your partner chose for you can do the deed.
