How to Spice Up Your Sex Life With BDSM!
If your sex life does not feel as great as it used to be, then introducing some BDSM techniques could help spice things up between you and your partner. With just a little effort, you can maximize the pleasure and excitement in your bedroom.
What is BDSM?
BDSM may be intimidating for many of us who have never been involved in it. So, it is important to understand a few things. The ‘B’ in BDSM stands for “bondage”. It means tying, restraining, or binding your partner for the purposes of stimulation.
The way BDSM is described in the media is not always accurate. In fact, the basis of BDSM is trust, which improves intimacy in any relationship. Also, while there might be control and pain, BDSM is not abusive. Many couples are scared of hurting their partners, but those who practice it well respect boundaries and safety.
You can only practice safe BDSM with someone that you can trust completely. This is because when you are tied up, you trust that your partner will respect your limits and set you free again.
How to Use BDSM to Spice Up Your Sex Life
Spicing up your sex life with BDSM is not as hard as you might think. You also do not need to spend a lot of money to get started. Here are some beginner-friendly tips that you can pull off with simple BDSM gear.
1. Find your favorite bondage style:
Although ropes can be tied in different ways, we recommend cuffs for beginners. With cuffs, you do not have to worry about how well you can tie a rope. Another reason why cuffs are a great choice is that they prevent your partner from touching themselves, so you can use them to experiment with orgasm denial.
If you are looking to get a pair of cuffs, do not go for metal ones as they are not safe. Instead, get wrist and ankle cuffs that are designed for bondage. They are available in a variety of styles for you to choose from.
You can invest in those that have removable furry sleeves because they are easy to clean. Also ensure that the handcuffs have an extra pair of keys in case you lose one in the heat of the moment.
2. Choose the type of game you want to play:
After you have cuffed your partner, what kind of sex games are you looking to explore? There are several ways to take advantage of how “helpless” they are. A few ideas of what you can do with your partner after they are bound are:
· Cuff them to a chair: The most common types of bondage usually involve binding the partner to the bedframe. But you can also use the cuffs to bind them to a chair.
From there, you can take it to any level you like. You can decide to ride them cowgirl style or use your mouth to stimulate their bodies. Run your mouth around all the parts of their body before you go to their genitals. When you get there, tease them and take your time until they are aching to be released.
· Add a blindfold to the bondage experience: Just take a moment to imagine yourself experiencing intense sexual pleasure without seeing your partner. You are completely at the mercy of your partner, and you don’t know what to expect next.
Almost everyone enjoys blindfolded sex because every touch and sensation feels more intense because of the loss of sight. It is usually a great experience and is an excellent way to boost the trust levels between you and your partner.
· Explore domination and submission: After restraining your partner, command them to give you your oral sex. Since they are restrained, you have full control, giving and taking your genitals away as you like.
Always remember that bondage is fun when it goes both ways. So, you and your partner should switch things up regularly. Many think that the woman is automatically supposed to be the submissive one, but several men enjoy being dominated during sex.
3. Try having rough and gentle sex:
If you and your partner enjoy being tied up, having rough sex can be really intense. However, make sure both of you are comfortable with it and have a safe word. You can then give up your body and have fun struggling with the cuffs as you are being pleasured.
Bondage can also be gentle and sweet. You can relax deeply as your body is being ravished by your partner. It is up to you how you enjoy the bondage. There is a wide range of things to try out so that you can choose your favorites together with your partner.
Conclusion
BDSM is based on mutual respect and trust, so it is important that you do not try anything that you are not comfortable with. Always look out for the safety of you and your partner at all times. If done properly, BDSM can help to add some spice back into your sex life.
