Is your partner truly meant to be the one?
Most of us wonder if we’re ever going to find “the one”. Everyone has dealt with life in their own way and has had their own traumas of the past. What keeps us alive and hopeful is that somewhere, someone is out there for us, waiting and trying to exist till you meet them and then try to make sense of this life.
Until then, keeping yourself sane is a task of your own. But what if you’ve come across your special person already? How would you know? We only get a few chances at true love- can we afford to miss that?
Is your partner truly meant to be the one?
Although you can’t say for sure if someone’s just into you for your advantages or has some ultimate motive, there are some tell-tale signs that can be safely trusted to know if he/she’s the one!
● Connection & Gut feelings
“My boss’s son is 6 years elder to me. Coming from a household where I’ve always missed out on love, I was forever on the lookout for someone who’d stay with me and help me figure out ways of how to live in the moment. He’s just that and maybe more. Finally confronted him with my feelings- turns out he has the same feelings for me!
After multiple wayward explanations, our families have agreed and we’re getting married this year!!”
Indeed, follow your instincts. You might end up being lucky if you dream and have the courage to make your dream true. A little affection and good communication goes a long way in developing a long lasting relationship.
● Sharing & Caring
If you have that someone who is emotionally available, doesn’t mind sharing daily activities and future plans and is also equally inquisitive about yours, he might truly be the one!
“I met my husband through an arranged meeting by our families. He didn’t speak much despite all my efforts to open him up. I’m primarily an outspoken person. I speak my mind and expect the same out of my partner. However, something struck me in the silence we shared. He’s all the mumma approved version, but that’s the least appealing thing about him. He has eyes that speak. Literally. The more I met him, the more I knew he was the one!! They say opposites attract- didn’t know that would happen with me!”
Being an introvert definitely doesn’t not mean that a shy person doesn’t want to be with you. Some people are more about actions. They show that they care in small or big ways, whichever suits them. Just observe- you might find the gem that you’re looking for!
● Interests & Hobbies
This is the age-old battle of whether your partner should have the same interests and hobbies as you. Contrary to popular belief, that it’ll be magical and things will fall into place by themselves, you’ll have to work it out either way.
There will be differences even if you have similar interests and things of love and there can be some beautiful moments you share despite having extremely different personalities. In the end, you will have to make efforts equally as your partner to make things work. Despite all odds, if your partner is willing to look at things practically instead of wearing rose coloured glasses and hoping everything to set by themselves, you’re lucky. Hold on to it and make sure you don’t lose out on this once in a lifetime person to spend your days with!
So you see? It’s really not about interests and hobbies- it’s about the final question- do you or do you not want to be each other’s forever?
● Counting the years
Timelines are never a good way to judge whether your relationship is going to last forever. This isn’t the century where marriages last just for the sake of families. If you think you’ve found your special one based on just the fact that you’ve known each other for 10 (or whatever number of ) years, this might come as a surprise to you.
Sometimes, stars have a different plan for you. You might be in a loveless relationship for years and one fine day you’re done with it. In a week, you meet someone out of nowhere, and decide he’s the one! Some might call it hasty, some might call it kiddish- but the facts stay.
A strong rapport and understanding is a must if your partner is truly the one for you! Time is just a number!
● Having fun!
Life is anyway too serious. With responsibilities and everyday chores, it gets dull and tiresome. Find yourself a person who’s willing to truly live life to its fullest and helps you do the same! A balanced life is important and having fun while dealing with all kinds of situations is an absolute must.
All of us try to keep our past behind and look at the future with all our hopes high! A partner who understands that and is willing to stay through it all is the real one. Come what may, a strong support and a pillar of positivity is all we need- man or woman, we’re all humans. While at it, creating some beautiful, silly memories is all we seek! Some small bits to cherish on those breezy, starry nights!
Overall, it is important to look out for signs from your partner. Ignorance is the worst thing that you can do for yourself if you’re looking for a long term relationship and want a healthy one at that. Remember, it’s still not rocket science. Communicate. Discuss. Analyse. If by a dash of bad luck you feel that your current partner doesn’t have it all, don’t be afraid. Life is too long to spend with the wrong person. Believe in yourself and take the plunge. Or maybe try working it out, in the most logical and practical way possible.
After all, where there is a will, there is a way!!
