Mutual Masturbation: Spicing Things Up For Better!
Wanna experiment and explore with your partner stepping back from those usual sex routines..?
Confused on how to draw a line with your new partner without losing the heat of the moment..?
Or unsure of how to convey your partner what you exactly want..?
Switching positions and communicating all day long but still not getting some..?
Agh..! The frustrations are real.!
Not knowing how to slow things down with your new partner without turning them off.! Not knowing how to let your partner know about how it exactly works for you.! Most importantly how to ward off that unwelcomed air of awkwardness that might get in the way while you take a step back to progress later.!
Hmm…… Thinking on how to do it all effectively and wisely…?
Let me help you with a trick.!
Although ‘Masturbation’ has its own set of stigma that the generations over time have successfully fought off, we can bring the satisfying act to our further use by knowing its healthy limits and benefits.
Self-stimulation in front of your partner or with your partner is what mutual masturbation entails. It can be a fantastic and exciting tool for experimenting the limits of intimacy with a new or your long-term partner.!
Mutual masturbation is one of the most sensual and intimate sexual acts of all times. And the biggest Pro part being that you can control the pace yourself figuring out how you want the intimacy to progress. Slowly..? Passionately ? Out of sight of each other..? Or immediately next to each other..? It all depends on what you want first and then on what your partner will find relaxing, enjoyable and sexy!
While many of us were taught that touching yourself should be done in secret (or not at all!) learning to pleasure yourself in front of a partner can be immensely empowering. There’s no doubt about that. It’s liberating, and a wonderful way of bonding and becoming vulnerable to one another.
So here are 5 Benefits of Mutual Masturbation.
- It enables you to determine a certain level of sexual compatibility.
Mutual masturbation is an excellent predictor of whether or not you will be sexually compatible in the future.
Check with yourself and your partner with the following questions.
Did you have a good time?
Did you make each other happy and satisfied?
Did you ever feel unsafe and insecure?
Were you entirely at ease during the act?
Did you feel respected and admired?
Did your companion appear at ease?
Were they turned on watching you?
If you didn’t like or if you felt unsafe, or if you weren’t into it just as much as your partner or if they weren’t into it just as much as you, then keep in mind that you need to take a step back and communicate before proceeding any further.
2. It aids in maintaining the level of intimacy in long-distance relationships.
You might be travelling for work.! Might be doing your higher education abroad in a different place than your partner. Or maybe you both met online and are physically separated most of the times.! Long-distance relationships can be challenging. It is mentally demanding, but there is also a physical factor to be considered.! You can only get so far with Skype, phone conversations, and text messages. So this could be your key to a more satisfying sexual bonding.
Watching each other masturbate can help to reduce the distance between you and your lover. Toys that allow you to physically control vibrations on the other toy have been produced using innovative technology, giving you the feeling that you and your partner are actually connected. All of the available creative options could be made use of here.! Toys are a great choice for instance.
3. Mutual masturbation take sex beyond mere penetration.
So often, we imagine sex as a penis penetrating a vagina.! When couples hurry right into penetration, they miss out on so many other forms of connection.
Spending time with genital massage, touching yourself in any way you choose, and showing your partner what you love may be deeply soothing and encouraging, especially because many women have been conditioned to prioritise their partner’s demands over their own.
4. It fosters trust and intimacy.
Of course it’s a sight to the sore eyes but more than that, allowing your partner to observe you touching yourself and masturbating might be a significant milestone in your relationship. Practising something that is normally done in private help explore a whole new level of trust and comfort between partners.
It’s fine to take your time getting there, but once you can truly open up with each other, I bet you’ll feel closer and liberated in ways you’ve probably never felt before!
5. You are showing your partner exactly what you like.!
Nobody knows your tastes better than you. Communication is essential during sex, but sometimes it’s best to let your body do the talking!
What if they had been thinking of you liking rapid and harder strokes while you want it slow and gentle.? So more than playing around with words just show them yourself. Mutual masturbation speaks volumes about what you prefer in sex and that can be an ultimate present to one another.
So for the ladies and gentlemen out there… If wondering how to start off, then here are some pointers:
You are not alone…!!! We got you covered.
● Touch yourself while watching your partner –
Lay down together on the bed or if you want your partner watching you, get them seated on a chair in front of you. If you are slightly nervous in the beginning, That’s okay. New beginnings can challenge your comfort bubbles. So take it slow.
You could dim the lights in the beginning to feel more comfortable. But eventually build up the confidence and work up and adding more lighting. To make it even more hot, along with touching yourself, verbalise what you are fantasising about your partner.
● Take turns giving intimate massages –
Allow yourself to relax completely as you let both of you explore and caress each other’s body. This is a gentle way of sharing sexual energy and learning each other’s touch preferences.
3 Ways to Improve the game further..!
Before you start, there are a few things you can do to make mutual masturbation as comfortable, pleasant, and delightful as possible. Try following these three suggestions to boost your confidence.
1. Communicate your Intentions Clearly Before Beginning.
The first step is always informing. Inform your companion that you want to try something different. And that you wanna try mutual masturbation. If you’re not sure how to bring up the issue, try something like:
“I’d love to watch you touch yourself if you will also be comfortable with it.”
You might also adopt a more straightforward approach:
“The idea of getting off while you’re watching me is a huge turn on.”
Most people, in my experience, become very excited about the prospect of watching their partner. If your partner appears insulted or uncomfortable, you can revisit the matter later. Take it as a warning sign and be wise to play along.
2. Be Particular.
Make it clear what you enjoy – and what you don’t like. There’s no pressure to pretend like you enjoy a certain physical contact or touch. Be open about what works for you and what doesn’t. Communication is the key.! And pretending eventually doom both your moods.
Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what they like and expect the same from them.
3. Obtain Consent.
Agree with your partner to constantly check in with each other before trying something new. A great approach to frame this is to ask something like:
“I think it would be incredible to….”
“….How does that sound to you?”
If you aren’t feeling good about a request your person makes, then you can keep the sexual energy going by offering something different rather than saying “no.”!
Always be courteous when saying no, and make sure that nothing you try to say disrupts the sexual energy.!!
Now don’t be afraid if next time you are caught up in an unsure situation with the partner who found yourself recently. You could easily set a healthy boundary by not offending your significant other by signing up for the idea of mutual masturbation. Let them know what you want first.! Let them touch later.!
It could be a tease and it could be fun. Most importantly, it’s empowering for your sensual side and strengthening for both your bonds.!!
Now that you know…. Have a good time y’all….!!
