Seven Reasons Why We Should Have Sex!
“You grow when you love yourself. You love yourself when you do the things you want to.”
Hushed tones, blank looks and ignorance- these have never helped anyone. So when it comes to sex, it is even more important that you discuss with your close ones, or experts, or if not then at least do your research right!
Having a great love life is not just about having a partner and spending the rest of life with him/her. It’s not just about the little things. Our equally about the bigger things, things that are close to your great and soul. While most people are curious and seek sex, making a decision can be difficult sometimes.
I’ve heard a lot of people say, if she loves you, she’ll have sex with you. Although unjustified, it’s symbolic of submission and pure love. The statement, however bewildering, isn’t entirely wrong either!
Having it with your partner is not just a form of expressing your love, but more importantly, it is about telling yourself that you prioritise your needs over people’s judgement and opinions. It’s about you, way more than about anybody else!! If you want it, why shouldn’t you do it!?
So here are some excellent reasons, why you should totally have sex before you get married away!
1. Best Stress Buster:
Undeniably, sexual intercourse is one thing that releases endorphins-the happy hormones, and along with the love hormone, it is known to beat out stress from your body-mental or physical. Everyone tends to develop stress with their day to day lives maybe due to work or family or literally anything that you want to do differently! And your partner comes to your rescue, quite much of a saviour, right? Merely some touches, cuddles, and kisses can help you forget all your troubles and help you learn to live in the moment.
2. Brings you closer to your partner
Developing a rapport is not an easy task. Getting intimate is one sacred thing that you don’t share with just anyone and nothing connects you better with your partner than sex!
Those little nothings, the laughter at both of your silliness and just the pleasure of having someone who loves you so much- it’s an overwhelm of emotions that every single person deserves and nobody should wait for, of course with consent.
3. Burn some calories
An increased heart rate, more sweat and a whole lot of excitement, sounds like your daily cardio schedule, just the one in your bedroom.
Sex is not just a stress buster, but a calorie burner too! Just to give you another (valid) reason to go for it with no second thoughts. A good foreplay won’t just add spice to your aftermath but will equally burn A LOT of calories. Remember to keep some carbohydrate rich food ready with you for later, cause you will need it.
4. Know yourself better
We’re not teenagers anymore and are responsible enough to choose what we want. Basically, you’re responsible for your happiness- so take charge!
This isn’t a fairy tale where a Prince Charming just knows what things will hit right with you. Own it up, know what works best for you and explore all your options. Also, if you won’t do it, who will? And why wait when you have that someone who’s willing to walk through with you? You don’t need wedding vows for that!
5. Experiment & learn
Every time is a good time to experiment! You learn a lot only through your experiences. People will say what they have been through, but remember nobody can step in your shoes. You have to craft your experiences, your way, build it up and live your dream.
Trust me, it will get better. You might be a little squeamish and awkward in the beginning, but this only gets better with time and more experiences! Remember to be open to ideas and if you want people to stop judging you, you have to do that for yourself first. This change has to begin with you, because if you really want it, you’ll get it.
6. Develop an attitude
Two individuals who think differently, probably have different goals in life and maybe a completely different lifestyle, not bound to stay together either- how do you think you can make the most out of it? Communication.
Sex isn’t just you fooling around for a day or a weekend- it has some actual life lessons- of how to make things work, and if they don’t, knowing when to stop. Developing a healthy attitude will keep you happy for a lifetime, no matter who stays in your life and who doesn’t. You will be there for yourself just when you need it. So don’t save your sanctious virginity namesake for a marriage. Be bold enough to accept it as a part of your life. And actively manage it all by yourself.
7. Address your Biological needs
We’re humans with frequent animal urges. These arise as a result of the need to keep populating this earth and keep the species going. Although we don’t need a lot of humans on this planet, that surely doesn’t mean you should curb your urges! These are natural needs and are essential to keep you glowing through your years.
Don’t be ashamed to share your love with your partner; make someone feel loved and let them love you. After all, who doesn’t like to feel light? This doesn’t just help you “feel” good, but in fact boosts your self confidence, mood and improves your productivity, adding a will to stay active and fit! A complete balance of work- personal life!
So to all of you who feel you’re having second doubts about having sex, most people have been in the same boat. Take that leap. You won’t know something unless you do it. While at it, ensure maximum safety and hygienic practises along with safe contraception methods. And remember to have fun! You Only Live Once ;)
