Tender or Harder?
The night deepened well beyond midnight. He turned around and spooned her from behind slowly caressing her waist and whispering gently in her ears. She seemed to love being touched like that. Half asleep. Having her lover close to her. He understood, she wanted it that way. Moving her dress up he slid in his dick slowly. He moved rhythmically. There is something about being making love slowly and passionately. Just losing yourself in the moment and feeling each movement. Each breath. Taking time to savour each other without thinking about anything else. Specially in the mornings . What better than starting your day with burning lots of calories together. Isn’t it? Well there is no woman who will disagree that she does not like that slow, all consuming sex. The feeling of being loved while being consumed by lust is out of the world . Here I am spilling beans on what women want when it comes to sex.
Something that men often wonder is what is her mind-set? What arouses her more? They get confused. That’s obvious if somebody is dating a woman who does not like to talk much while having sex all the work is left to the man to figure out what she wants. He would obviously go ahead and do a little foreplay till he feels both are aroused then do it in a way that makes him feel that pleasure. Even if he tries to ask her and she is shy to explain it. As a result both of them would not be satisfied. They won’t feel that connection.
Am I saying it is the woman’s fault? In a way , yes. You are a grown up. You should know how to ask for what you want. The thing is sometimes it is about the environment they grow in. The people whom they listen to and follow. Some of them form some hard and fast rules, some myths, some norms and those who don’t have the courage to explore their needs follow the path laid out. They feel shy telling their male partner how to make them feel even more excited. Like it is something wrong. Like it is sinful. So they let them do what they are doing and do not put any effort to make it mutual.
Most women like gentle sex, some prefer it wild , some like both. Now that depends on the mood, the relation dynamics, the understanding and even their menstrual phases. Like we know women’s body go through the cycle comprising of four phases.
Our hormones play an important part on how we would like to get laid. As I have noticed personally, we feel a lot more horny a few days before and a few days after the menstrual period. The hormones are at peak and having sex at that time feels heavenly. Those are the times we desire a round of wild sex. Or as many rounds as we please! There is this aching need to be touched and be as nasty as one can. Isn’t it exactly what rough sex is about. Well yes. But there is more to that.
Some women prefer keeping all that baby and sweetheart talks outside the bedroom. They like being called filthy names and being told how bad they are. It turns them on. Why wouldn’t it? Right.
As doing the deed of darkness( not literally) is a time when both the partners feel vulnerable, exposed and they can just be themselves. So why not? If she likes being drilled deep and spanked then so be it! When I talk about rough sex the things that come to mind are spanking ,choking, gagging, hair pulling, or being pinned down using all the strength. Talking dirty and nibbling on the earlobes. Dominating your partner. It is fun. We like it. In my experience, it’s what a most of the women like. They just won’t say it. Maybe because of the judging eyes and remarks of the society. Generally people judge women more as compared to men when it comes to that sex talk. Why waste energy explaining when it can be used somewhere else right? We simply like to show that side of ours to our partner.
We have often heard women like bad boys. We like the rough sex they make us experience that gives us an intense release. Not forgetting the flashbacks while you are at work and your vagina goes all tingling. They know how to spice things up , dominate and keep the anticipation and lust increasing manifold. Remember the scenes from the movie 365 days? Yes that was all about it.
Women felt their fantasies being played on the big screen. All that scratching, biting, spanking causes pain which feels stimulating. It increases the excitement. They make their partner feel feminine. That is something we all crave for. Feeling that feminine energy. Yes sometimes we like to dominate too. It is just as fun. Switching up things, coming over, taking the control in our hands ( quite literally) gives a adrenaline rush too. Just drawing the line where it does not feel like abuse. Some people feel having rough sex is abuse . It goes for both the sexes.
Consent is important. We would go for this only with a man we trust. Someone who is protective enough to know the boundaries without halting the fun. Understanding each other’s body is important. Validating their emotions is necessary. Both of them should be able to talk clearly, set the mood, see what their partner needs. Is it a long session of steamy, passionate, whispering sweet nothings in the ear love making or it is a wild, leg shaking, screaming dirty things, unleashing the beast in them that would make them tremble as they orgasm. There is no specific rule that this type of woman will like gentle sex or oh! She is bold . She would like being banged hard. Everyone is different. Their needs are different. I’ve came across statements like “ He rushes into it. Like it is a race. A result to be accomplished without exploring it like it should be” . Well you have all the time in the world. We are not considering quickies here. So take your time, have that passionate , moaning with need kind of foreplay or a hot, wild fuck. Enjoy the process.
Turn your wildest fantasies into reality. Women love it. It is understood that nobody likes it monotonous. Or being the one doing it all. It is more fun and creates a better relation outside the bedroom when the things inside are being done right. It is all about being yourself, relishing the moments and not being too solemn.
