The ultimate truth bomb-what do women want?
Women- the most discussed topic in politics, media, magazines, internet, and of course the social circles. How often do you find yourself (being a man or woman), commenting or simply talking about any woman’s appearance, decisions or her actions? And then you hear women who speak up and defend themselves; who’re unapologetic, “bold”, and are “rebellious” enough to wage their war of words against those who make these comments. The question is, why this unnecessary drama? Doesn’t it seem to be just a means of creating waves and gaining publicity?
There’s another wing of liberalists- who want to listen, who wish to change, who want to provide equal spaces and opportunities- but is that it? Do they really listen or do they pretend to do so?
A number of women continue to break the silence on such issues- so here’s another point of view on this never ending debate- after all,
What do women want?
1. Simple manners-simple, right?
The most underrated quality- good manners. Although western influence might have brought in a reality check to a number of manners and supposed values, some core values reflect a person’s experiences and their reactions to life situations. Manners come handy in everything.
There are so many plus points of having good etiquette while in a public place or even in your personal life. I’m sure it won’t harm ANYONE to have good manners! What does this include? Not speaking loudly over your phone calls- we don’t want to hear them- business or personal matters, not scratching your private parts in public, not occupying the seats meant for the elderly, differently abled persons and pregnant ladies, not driving on the opposite side of the roads, not honking too much while driving, not hurling abuses at every single opportunity that you get, and maybe just resolving arguments without violence. Not so tough, yeah?
2. Eyes on the face, please?
We get it, evolution gave female mammals some very interesting features- lovely hair, a beautiful face structure, a perfect nose, a pair of eyes, ears and boobs.
Oops, that’s not on the face, right? You might as well realise this too! It’s not that difficult, really. Meeting and greeting a woman while having a good eye contact with her can help you win the conversation while giving in to your unruly, wild sense of “meeting” won’t help you much. Keeping your chin up, looking straight high also keeps your neck well aligned and will help you save your neck for much better purposes in life- so maybe just eyes on the face, please?
3. Cut the pretensive violence
It is a free world, and not everyone believes in the concept of ‘ahinsa’, and that’s completely okay. Bollywood and almost every other movie form has already exploited the whole action-drama thing; do something original, maybe?
How about showing affection and being understanding- is that very difficult as compared to punching the brains out of a person? Violence only traumatises people, increases the blood pressure and wastes time- apart from the physical injuries caused.
Quit it already!
4. Humble bragging, really?
Who hasn’t met a random guy in the metro or the elevator who suddenly starts speaking loudly to show off his riches and glory? But wait, that’s not the case anymore- after all, the generation has advanced. Now the humble bragging begins with a quiet conversation, few nods, a pretentious understanding attitude and the ultimate bomb of bragging. Guess what, that’s certainly not needed.
5. Listen, or maybe just nod?
Everyone in general needs to understand this- listen to understand and not to think what to answer next! Sometimes, you might not find something very relatable, but a good friend/ person will always bear it for a minimum 5 minutes? That’s not a lot, yes? When you’re speaking with someone, both of you need to act as good speakers and listeners. Only listening is also okay, but only talking is definitely not! A good listener will always win the room.
6. Keep your ‘mansplaining’ aside?
We’re thrashing out the stereotypes and still stuck at the mansplaining aspect of our community. Stemming from the roots of man being the “head of the family” and the decision maker, men have a stupid natural tendency to feel their opinion is ALWAYS superior than those of anyone else, more so when it comes to a woman.
Supposedly, their point of view is wider, dreams are bigger and they have more clarity. Not all men, we get it, but those that exist that way are such a pain to be with! A loud voice and a dominating attitude doesn’t help either!!! It’s just sad how people can’t recognise the resistance around them!
7. Show us your true side- machismo is a big NO!
Another Indian masculinity issue- machismo. Men are humans too and crying, venting and feeling sad is all okay- you need not cover things up. And no, you are not the sole responsible person of your household, you have your partner to deal things with so stop over stressing yourself.
Just communicate! Share things, talk it out! Hitting the gym is a good thing but doing so to cover up your emotions is not. And for those who instigate other males to “be a man”, just stop this bullshit already. Instead, help out a friend genuinely and guide them through the tough times, be their pillar of support!
We’ve heard enough of what women want- we know what women want, what every human being wants. It’s time to act as we preach. Small things, a bit here, a bit there- these are the ones that make a big difference in people’s lives- who pass it to their next generation. That’s how you move things and not by raising your voice and creating ruckus for no reason at all!
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